The power of replacing the word 'but' with 'and'

Lets get straight into it...

The word 'but' can negate what is said before it. So whomever said or was the recipient of the words before the 'but' can feel negated, disempowered and judged. An example would be good here.........'MC says to the audience,  'You've heard from a great lineup of speakers today, but, we now have something special from our key note speaker..........'

Whew!!!! How would you feel if you were one of the speakers that was on before the keynote? Not so great, me thinks!

The 'but' when used in this way negates and judges the initial speakers and their offerings. It's disempowering for the speakers and the audience and even for the MC who said it. How is this? Well the MC is judging the previous speakers by using the word 'but' and in so doing is judging themselves. 'But' judges the other and therefore the self. The MC contracts slightly when saying the 'but' word in this sentence and is disempowered. The MC also brings judgment upon themselves from those speakers and audience that have felt disempowered by the sentence.

Replacing the word, 'and' for 'but'',  sees a whole new sentence emerge.

'You've heard from a great lineup of speakers today, and, we now have something special from our key note speaker..........'

When using 'and' instead of 'but' it doesn't negate what has gone before it, rather, it acknowledges it, respects it, accepts that it is there, doesn't judge it and therefore is empowering for everyone. In this context, the word, 'and' keeps us as people, in the non judgmental space, a space of allowing, openness, peace.

We do not judge the recipients of our words and therefore do not make right or wrong and so do not delve into 'belief' about it. We don't reinforce beliefs of right and wrong. So we remain in peace.

Words...they can have a powerful impact. How are you choosing yours? How often do you use the word 'but'? What could you gain from the above enquiry into replacing it with the word 'and'?